Updated: Jul 16, 2019
Recently I've become aware that I can choose anything, absolutely anything, that I want. That sounds really obvious but is it?
Choosing to me was about "what restaurant should we eat in", "where should we go on vacation", "what should I wear today", everyday choices between A & B that I don't have to think about too much.
What about making choices about "bigger" things?
I woke up the other morning and I felt like I have felt many mornings, heavy, the day was going to be a drag, and I wasn't sure I wanted to get up. I thought, "ok, I can choose that very familiar way of feeling or I can choose something different". Now, I didn't know what else I could choose but I knew I didn't want to choose the old way so I just thought to myself I'm not choosing that.
I got up and went about my morning and a few hours later I realized that my day felt different and not as heavy as it would have had I made a different choice.
Can it be that simple? I'm finding that it can!
I used to worry a lot, about certain things - is everybody in my life ok?... if I do "this" will people judge me"...."should I have done that, now I feel guilty and I'm worried about it - and many more similar situations and circumstances that would start the worry. Now I ask myself, "do you want to choose to worry abut that?" and most of the time I'm able to stop the process and not go down the worry path. When I do choose the worry path I don't entertain the worry like I did in the past. I'm able to recognize that I can choose, at anytime to stop worrying and make another choice, usually when I feel so uncomfortable that I recognize I can choose something else.
Choice has become one of my favorite tools!